When it comes to sex, people are quite reserved to normal forms of sex – vaginal penetration and oral sex. They have restricted their art of making love and are afraid or may be unaware of what all pleasures they could find from what they have. Yes, I am referring here to Anal Sex.
Before coming in touch with healthcare industry I myself was afraid of much hyped “Anal Sex”. But in recent times, I have read a lot of articles, studies & journals of famous sexperts and have discussed the topic with them personally. And then I found that there is a way lot of gap between reality and what the mindset of people is.
I have been receiving hell lot of emails from my readers regarding anal sex safety, possibility and pros and cons. I tried understanding their concerns and their priorities and have finally decided to write upon this topic.
In my recent search what I have found is everybody has more or less the same mindset regarding anal sex. Some say its untidy and unhygienic, some think it will be painful and hence they didn’t even tried while many have heard myths that people who indulge in anal sex they die early. There is a way big difference in reality and the myths spread around. But, today I’ll bring out the reality in front of you and give you a complete real life guide of Anal Sex.
Today I’ll go by the most asked questions and come up with the art of doing anal sex in a step wise manner. Why is it so much hyped that anal sex is painful? In anal sex no fluid is secreted for lubrication( unlike vaginal) so there is high possibility of generating friction which may cause pain and injuries. Moreover, the structure of vagina is such that it automatically adjusts the size of opening when penis is inserted, while on the other hand anal is a bit tight. This creates panic and fear amongst people. Hence you need to know what is right way to do anal sex and how to do it before indulging in real action.
In lack of proper knowledge, even if people indulge in such acts they end up hurting themselves and hence become less reluctant to indulge in anal sex again. So what are the ways that can help make anal sex more fun? Let’s check them out.
Once you have decided to have anal sex – Step 1:
First thing first, before anything else you need to talk about your desires with your partner. Because mutual understanding is the first step or key to the thrilling adventure you are going to experience. It’s not always women who are afraid of anal sex, even men are also afraid of it. So, talk to them and ask them about their views. Make your partner read this post if he/she has any type of fear in mind.
Your partner has agreed & both are eager to do it – Step 2:
There is a special advice for men; do not rush. Don’t try to be superman and try to penetrate in one go as you begin! Anal sex is not a hardcore form of sex, it is more of a softcore type. You may skip foreplay while having vaginal penetration, but in this case foreplay is must and for this you may play with your partners butt before doing the real action. Keep in mind that you have to gradually proceed towards your partners anus. (Doing all this does nothing with anus, it just excites the nerves in anus which gives pleasure, so that their mind is more on the pleasure side and not the pain)
What after foreplay? – Step 3:
Now comes the role of key ingredient that is responsible for making anal sex really pleasurable, thrilling and least painful. It’s Lubrication!! Make sure you have lots and lots of lubrication with you before indulging into anal sex because it will be required very often.
Alright I have got the lubricants – Step 4:
Do not start riding directly, first start with fingers. Apply lubricant on the anal of your partner (covering nearby area as well), then start with single finger with lots of lubrication on it. Once your partner is comfortable you may start to insert another finger as well but with lots of lubrication. Lubricants are the key for amazing and heavenly anal sex with all 100% Pleasure and 0% Pain.
It seems everything is lubricated – Step 5:
Make sure your partner is comfortable and relaxed. Keep talking to your partner about how she’s feeling? Is she loving it? Does she want more? I am asking you to do this because if this is done in nervous state, then the anal opening won’t open wide enough causing it more difficult. Along with lubrication, partner’s mood is the deciding factor so as to how thrilling your experience is going to be.
Now I am going to give you a magic trick that you might have never thought of and wouldn’t have even heard of, that will double the pleasure. You can simultaneously do fingering in her vagina and also do in-out in her anus with fingers. Trust me this will really make your partner enjoy every second of your hard work and be on the top of her excitement level.
Oh boy..!! She is craving for it – Step 6:
Now is the time for final show down. Once you begin to feel that opening in wide enough then it’s time for you to take your ace out.
Do not get over excited..!! You still can’t go in one shot. You have to slowly insert and do remember not to penetrate it all in one shot. Because, if you will do this in one go it may cause a lot of pain to you and your partner (if you guys are beginners). So you need to go half way in and out that’s it. And I repeat DON’T FORGET LUBRICATING IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. You should always remember that the anus is really sensitive so prior to any thrill you want to have, remember it’s not the Vagina.
We completely loved it – Step 7:
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One last point – here is a warning for men with long penis. Do not ever put the whole penis in as it can cause trouble to large intestine of your partner.
I hope you are now trained enough to have some real time fun. 😉
Stay Aware..!! Stay Safe..!! Enjoy More..!!